Walk away? Or just one more?

The decision to end treatment is not an easy one. 

Indecision and FOMO (fear of missing out) are common on this IVF roller coaster.  I remember feeling like I was stuck in a fog with everyone offering me a map or a compass (this was in the days before Google maps and GPS) for a journey they had never been and would never be on.

There is always hope that maybe it will work the next time. But what happens when that hope is continually dashed? What happens when the IVF Roller Coaster begins to impact your wellbeing and your relationship?

Disembarking the IVF roller coaster may seem like quitting on something you desperately want.  But, please be assured, it is not about quitting, it is about making choices and decisions to support your wellbeing.

A variety of feelings sit under making these choices and decisions.  Some of these are easily discussed with each other, some may not be easy to raise in conversation. There are many areas of life meaning and purpose to weigh up.

Working with a therapist who understands this emotional roller coaster and the stresses of not only making the decision to end treatment, but also what it means to move forwards as a couple may help take some of the stress away from this emotional time.

Having this safe, empathetic space to being seen, heard, and have a calm transparent conversation can help you feel empowered to be comfortable with the choices you make.  

You may also want to explore strategies to mark the end of what could have been a long and lonely time of your life, and help you to evaluate and redefine what life ahead looks and feels like.

The link above - Waiting Rooms is a song I wrote about my experiences on this roller coaster. Some of it may resonate with you.  Everyone’s story is different, but I hope it gives you an insight into my journey and assures you that I have been where you are. 

If you would like to have an obligation free conversation to explore if and how we could work together,